June 03, 2007
Walk a mile......
Ok, I've been stewin' on this for a while now. And maybe a lazy Sunday morning is the wrong time to get on my soapbox, but then again - it's traditionally a Family Day, so maybe it's the PERFECT time.
Either way, I'm going in.
Over the last couple of months, I've noticed a hell of a lot of bitchin' going on. Not just in the blogosphere but with people in general. So many folks bitchin' about their families, their lovers, their kids. Their lives over all.
And I'm not talking about the day to day stuff. I'm talking real live, heartfelt bitchin' and complainin'.
And I just want to reach out and slap 'em. Seriously - do people not realize what they have?
Do people not realize what a GIFT it is to be loved? To KNOW that someone has your back, cares about YOU, accepts you BECAUSE of all your flaws? Love is not earned. It is a gift. And if it's been given to you - that's pretty special. Because trust me - there are a lot of folks out there that have never known what that's like.
And do people not realize how precious those babies are? The feeling of those strong young arms hugging your neck? Looking up with those dirty faces, eyes shining with adoration and mischief? Knowing that Mommy or Daddy loves them. Do you have any idea how much some people would give for just a MOMENT of that?
Life is hard. Plain and simple. There are good days and there are bad days. The secret is rolling with it. And if you don't have to roll alone, you're pretty damned lucky. So what if he didn't get the garage cleaned out today. Or she didn't get the laundry done and you can't wear your favorite t-shirt. And kids will be kids. They're gonna get on your last nerve. But that's all a part of it.
Be grateful for what you have. Oh, yeah, I know there's a need to blow off steam. But before you open your mouth and start talkin' about how you wish you didn't have to cook breakfast, or run the kids, or Can't He Do Anything For Himself, remember that there are folks that would give a piece of their souls for just one day with someone to love.
Damn, folks can be so insensitive. It just burns my ass some days.....
Posted by Tammi at June 3, 2007 08:03 AM | TrackBackThanks for that.
Posted by: Jim at June 3, 2007 09:08 AMAmen, Tammi!
Posted by: Christina at June 3, 2007 09:51 AMGuilty as charged...! :)
But what if we're bitching because they DON'T love us and DON'T have our backs and DON'T accept us? Hmmmmm....?
You ARE right; it's pointless, negative and shameless. Can't promise I'll stop, though. My blog is my only outlet for that kind of stuff. :)
Posted by: pam at June 3, 2007 10:03 AMI'm getting really sick and damn tired of having to cook the kids and run the breakfast... :)
Posted by: Graumagus at June 3, 2007 12:04 PMHooah!
Posted by: Sarah at June 3, 2007 01:50 PMI will say guilty as charged, I do complain...
I do not think it is hateful though...
I try and maintain proper perspective......
My biggest fear in posting this was that people wouldn't realize I was not talking about the day to day blowing off of steam. But more that deep seated anger/self pity. The not appreciating how good they have it.
Do people not realize what a GIFT it is to be loved? To KNOW that someone has your back, cares about YOU, accepts you BECAUSE of all your flaws? Love is not earned. It is a gift. And if it's been given to you - that's pretty special. Because trust me - there are a lot of folks out there that have never known what that's like.
Amen, amen, amen! Well said, Tammi.
Posted by: FbL at June 3, 2007 02:59 PMBut you know, sometimes during the deepest, darkest time in ones life they can't see the forest for the trees.
Posted by: Quality Weenie at June 3, 2007 06:34 PMI don't believe I have posted anything like that but if I did, I am sure it was in a blowing off steam way.
I agree with you. I am grateful to be loved. Not too many would love this mess that I am.
And those blue eyes, snot nose and dirty face? Man o Man, do I love to gaze at that!
Posted by: oddybobo at June 3, 2007 07:54 PMLove the rant and it is something we all need to be reminded of every now and then... Even on the worst of days I do try to be thankful for my PIA Man and my evil spawn! ;)
Seriously though, great post.
Posted by: ALa at June 3, 2007 09:22 PMYpu - what everybody said. Good on ya, Tammi!
Posted by: Richmond at June 4, 2007 09:13 AMAnd that should be Yup. Dang Mondays.
Posted by: Richmond at June 4, 2007 09:14 AM