October 11, 2006
Stop with the Excuses
You know I was reading this morning that Mel Gibson had his first interview since his little drunken escapade. I didn't post about that for any number of reasons, mainly because others did it so much better.
Anyway - he said he was sorry, it was just his drunkness talking (or something like that).
Now, can I tell you how much I hate that excuse? Seriously. I was married to a drunk for 11 years. He would say he was an alcoholic, but he wasn't. He didn't HAVE to drink, he chose to. When he quit there were no withdrawls, nothing. He just stopped.
But every "morning after" his excuse was always the same. "Oh, I didn't mean it, it was just the booze talking". Hell - I used that same damned excuse when apologizing for him over the years. I could kick myself now.
I've made no secret to the fact that I like a drink every now and then. And I've been known to over indulge a time or two. But I can tell you I stand by what I say. I don't blow it off "because of the booze". I take responsibility for what I say and do. If I'm worried I might step out of line or say something I don't want out there - I don't drink. Simple. Excuses are like assholes. Everybody's got one and they all stink.
I know I've posted over and over again about how I just wish people would take responsibility for themselves. Their actions. Their words. No excuses. None. But I'm just so tired of mean, rude people. So very tired of them.....
Posted by Tammi at October 11, 2006 05:38 AM | TrackBackThat's telling them Tammi.
Posted by: Tink at October 11, 2006 10:49 AMI half buy the "it's the booze talking" excuse. I half buy it, because I'm pretty sure most people wouldn't say half the stuff they do when their drunk as opposed to sober. Be it a mean joke, something on their mind, an off-hand comment or their honest oppinion; if they hadn't been drinking they wouldn't have said it. It doesn't mean they aren't thinking it, just able to use a little control and inhibition to keep from sounding like a fool.
I know I do it all the time.
Posted by: Contagion at October 11, 2006 03:18 PMIn my effort to get that posted before work this morning I may have not stated myself clearly. I completely understand "it's the booze talking". Completely. What I have the problem with is if it's mean or wrong the lack of apology. Just leaving the excuse there as if that were enough. Does that make sense?
Posted by: Tammi at October 11, 2006 03:30 PMTammi,
I totally agree. Booze just lowers your inhibitions and you may blurt out something that you are thinking, but wouldn't normally speak of. However, booze does not make you do something that you wouldn't normally do. The drunk girl who does a striptease at a party, probably dances naked in the bathroom at home.
Booze is like a truth serum. In other words, drunk or sober, Mel doesn't like the Jews.
Posted by: Jerry at October 11, 2006 05:21 PMJerry? Doesn't everyone dance naked in the bathroom at home???
:-)
Posted by: Tammi at October 11, 2006 08:30 PMI agree, apologize and leave it there. When someone tries to invoke the "drunk defense" (not to be confused with the "twinkie defense) it gets my blood boiling. Pretty soon they'll be getting off from DUI charges because, "your honor, I didn't know what I was doing, I was drunk, temporarily unable to discern my actions."
I'm just sayin'.