February 20, 2007
Wazza Madda?!?!?!
I am Italian. You know when it's really evident? When I'm angry. '
I. Have. A. Temper.
And that is the understatment of the century.
Now, normally I will recognize when I'm at the "Red" level of anger and step back whenever possible. I know what my knee jerk reactions are like, and folks - it ain't pretty.
I can tear you to shreds in very few words. I don't need to yell. I don't even need to curse. Oh I can. But I don't need to.
It took most of my adult life to learn to do the whole step away thing. It's one reason I like email and phone. If I'm in a face to face and that happens....well, the odds of me withholding diminish greatly.
My control has been mistaken for weakness, and I'm actually alright with that. You want to think I'm weak? Go right ahead. hehehehehe
Now, please know, even stepping back, I'll blow. The party I'm angry at just won't ever know. And when I do have my say, it'll still be blunter than most would find "pleasant". But then again, if I'm angry I really don't give a rats ass how pleasant it is for you. Seriously. You know the sayin'....If Tammi ain't happy NOBODY'S happy....or something to that effect.
So what brings this up? Nothing really. Well, I'm not feeling well at all and something happened that, well, I snapped. Seriously, it was ugly.
And after I snapped I went outside and had a little pace.
No one has come within 10' of my office since then.
And it got me to thinking - maybe y'all have some tricks I could "borrow" to reduce the "Snap" factor even more. Got any suggestions?
Posted by Tammi at February 20, 2007 02:25 PM | TrackBackMy move?
I usually treat the entire team to donuts and coffee the morning after an "episode." [By "episode" I mean "Torturing Poor Colleagues with My Special Brand of Bitchery(TM)]
Now, they associate Demon!TJ! with pink icing and Hazlenut-flavored java.
In any case...hope your day improves, kiddo!
TJ
Posted by: TJ at February 20, 2007 03:33 PMAs I feel my blood boiling I normally say, "I would very much like to continue this discussion when I return from my meeting (or I'm done with my teleconference), but right now I have to leave." And I put on my coat or jacket and walk out, otherwise I know if I stay I'll have to apologize later.
If I have to sit there and listen to crap I simply force myself to listen and think of how I'm going to professionally anhilate them later on. Professional revenge is sweetest when it done in a very cold calculating and effective manner.
Posted by: michele at February 20, 2007 05:25 PMShit, I just turn the TV up, or go get a beer. Or both. Then, the next day, when I wake up, if I'm still pissed 'bout it, I start figurin' what the payback's gonna be. Life to short to get pissed to often.
(Another T-Shirt sayin' for Tammi)
Valium? ;-)
Posted by: Richmond at February 20, 2007 08:28 PMwhen I'm about to crack, I end up getting a phone call from one of my best friends who is over in Iraq or else if it is late there, another of my friends here.
So... you know... Psychic Friends. That's what it takes.
Make sure when you flip out that you have a half-eaten bagel in your hand. At least the comic relief after ("...AND you had the BAGEL in your hand! Screaming with a bagel!") will crack a smile from somewhere.... Albeit an embarrassing one.
Don't ever apologize, either. No one else seems to, why should you??? ;)
... holy shit!.... Twisty lives!..
Posted by: Eric at February 21, 2007 11:26 PMRevenge fantasies :-)
Posted by: Harvey at February 22, 2007 11:23 AM