Tammi's World

Doesn't Happen Every Day

7 days. One week. If you read the Bible, that was the amount of time it took for God to create the world AND have a day of rest. Wars have started and ended in that time.

Seven days.

Seven days from today is the wedding. My niece will no longer be Miss Carmen, but Mrs. Carmen. Married. Wow.

And I have to tell you, it has been incredibly difficult being so far away during these past few months as everything has been planned and primped. I've missed all the shopping trips, the planning sessions, those late nights sitting around Cuz's house just talking. I hate that.

Not only did I miss all that, but I never got a chance to talk with her. To share my "wisdom" as it were. You do realize, I'm that annoying Aunt we all have. The one that embarrasses us with hugs and kisses. The one who always has something to say about everything. Yep. Poor Carmen. She's got one of THOSE aunts.

I'm a pretty big fan of marriage and family. I truly believe it is the most important part of our society. That said, you can imagine I have a few ideas. Theories for want of a better word.

So, true to form, I have marriage advice. Advice that's been handed down for generations, not just in my family but it's pretty universal.

It's all about the love. Love for each other. Love for the family. Love for yourself.

Don't ever lose sight of who YOU are. He fell in love with that wonderful, spunky, intelligent and funny woman that you are. Don't let her get lost in the mix. Take time for you. Take care of you.

Treasure where you come from. Your family. You'll start new traditions of your own, but hold close those that have been a part of Us for decades.

And remember to keep your home full of love. Oh, there'll be days (weeks possibly) where you're angry or hurt, but don't lose sight of how you felt that first time you looked at him and KNEW. Knew that this was a man you could respect. A man you could count on. A man you love.

My favorite passage in the bible sums it all up perfectly. There are a million sayings that have been passed down over the years, but I prefer this one. 1st Corinthians Chapter 13 (from the New International Version)

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,

it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects,
always trusts, always hopes,
always perseveres.

Love never fails...

It all comes down to the love. If you keep that as your focus, all those rough times get just a little easier. If you remember to respect and trust each other you'll find those difficult times a bit smoother. Oh, nothing is perfect. Nothing is easy. But by remembering WHY you'll find anything is possible. You are partners, and that partnership is the basis of everything. For as long as time.

It all comes down to the love. It's as simple as that.

One last famous quote - from The Princess Bride...

Westley: Hear this now: I will always come for you.
Buttercup: But how can you be sure?
Westley: This is true love - you think this happens every day?

No, no it doesn't. But when it does it's something very special........

Posted by Tammi at October 15, 2006 06:52 AM | TrackBack