Every Saturday I'll try to come up with some "out there" question that just makes you stop and think about something not so important. Think of it as a mini vacation. If you have any ideas drop me a line and we'll throw it in here. Who knows, it might be fun.
OK - Here.....STOP!!!
You know what? We're gonna do things a little different this morning. Yep, we sure are. Today's Question won't be so "out there". It's New Years Day, a new beginning. Now, I do NOT believe in New Years Resolutions. But, I do believe in self improvement. There's a big difference there. Resolutions, in my opinion, are just peer pressure. Self Improvement.....that is based on a desire to continue to work towards being the person you want to be.
So, here's my question for today. What one thing do you plan on changing about yourself in this upcoming year? I wanna lose weight, I wanna quit smoking, I wanna start exercising are not acceptable answers here. This is for thought, this is for desire to change.
Me? Oh, I wanna do all those things listed above and more. But the one thing I will change about myself this year is simple. I'm going to start putting myself first. I'm going to start saying NO. I'm going to start expecting, no - demanding the same respect I give others....and what I have earned along the way.
How does that make ME a better person? Easy. It takes away someone's power to piss me off. It takes away my frustration. It takes away my self doubt.
It won't be easy. It will take more than a year to accomplish, but it's something that is long over due. I often use the example of Pavlov's dogs to explain away why I react a certain way, and in this situation is more accurate than anyone could realize. We are born with self respect. It is others that we allow to steal that.
The sad thing is when we stop expecting that respect people stop giving it. Do you realize that you are treated the way people preceive that you want to be treated? Being humble is good.....no one likes a braggart. Being a victim? Nope, not a good thing at all.
OK - enough of the lecture!!
So tell me.......what is the one thing you want to change in yourself? Just remember, change takes time. All good things are worth the effort. Make it meaningful, make it realistic, make it something you really want.
Posted by Tammi at January 1, 2005 08:54 AMOk, that question is too hard. But I'm perfect anyway, so why would I change? ;)
You SURE I can't just go with the "Exercise a bit more" line? How about a specific goal of a certain body fat % or weight-gain amount?
Posted by: Ogre at January 1, 2005 11:16 AMThis is a hard one Tammi...I don't do resolutions either...
My friend and I started taking 'mental health' days-- away from husbands and kids once a week --they have been a God-send and I plan on making sure that continues...
Happy New Year Girl!
Posted by: ALa71 at January 1, 2005 01:25 PMGreat resolution, Tammi! However, I do want to quit smoking sometime this year. I'm hoping I'll gain some weight, and do more exercise as a result ;-)
Posted by: Sally at January 1, 2005 04:27 PMEasy, the same thing I try to not let bother me every year.
I will try to stop letting peoples negative (ie mean) thoughts about me get to me.
Some times I care to much about what people think about me and I concentrate on them more then people who like me.
Posted by: Machelle at January 1, 2005 05:21 PMHmm. Torn as to whether to give you a fluff answer or be brutally honest on your blog. But we're talking about me and it's YOUR blog, so I'll be honest. (I'd lie on mine. *wink*)
I want to be fit and thin and trim because it is GOOD for me and not because I might actually hear something nice from my spouse. (Which I won't.) I want to do it for me and not because he will notice me. (He won't.) This is the year, the big 4-0, that it is time for me to be right with me and forget about him.
Posted by: Boudicca at January 1, 2005 08:31 PMBesides the losing weight dealie I want to improve my prayer life.
Too many times I refuse to surrender myself to the Lord's will and I do what I want instead of what He wants for me. That's what I want to work on in 2005.
See, I did it again. Doing what I want to do...
;-)
I am going to try to accept that I am doing the best that I can.
:/
Posted by: _Jon at January 2, 2005 09:48 AMI am going to devote more time to developing relationships in my family (brothers, nieces, nephews, etc.). We have drifted apart over the years and distance makes it tough, but I can be better an maintaining contact.
And, sorry, got to break the rules...
I AM GOING TO LOSE MORE WEIGHT!
Posted by: Bonfire7 at January 2, 2005 04:02 PM