Boudicca has a great post in honor of our Blogfather Harvey. Yep, that's right. It's about Breasts. As usual, I've something to say on this.
I come from a family of very well endowed ladies. Oh yeah - they got it goin' on! I do not resemble anyone in my family. Ave. height - 5'3", I'm 6'2". They look like women, they have curves and breasts and such. I don't - oh I got hips, you can't miss them. But I'm not well endowed. Nope, not at all.
And I like it that way. I saw how much they have all suffered over the years, watch what they wear, the bra's that aren't always so attractive. You know what - I wear strapless dresses, halter tops, pretty lacy bras - I can wear anything I want. And on those rare occassions the dress needs a bit of umph - they make bras that take care of that too.
Best of all - I'm 42 now. Minimum sagging, still wearing strapless dresses and halter tops. Yep. They aren't aging too bad.
But I've always taken grief from the family. I remember on my 16th birthday - my most conservative Aunt (who also has the best sense of humor) gave me a beautifully wrapped package. I opened it and inside was a training bra with little "reserved" signs embroidered on the cups. Yes - she took the time to stitch the word reserved on both cups. That was kinda embarrassing. But, as time went on I learned to give as good as I got.
In Lulu's this week, I saw the male obsession in action. There was a girl. Pretty, not a knockout, but pretty. Not overweight, but not in any semblance of "condition". But this chick had boobs - and she let everyone know. You couldn't miss 'em. Every guy in the group turned around in his chair as she walked by. One guy actually tripped as he was walking. You know what - good for her. She's got 'em, might as well take those puppies out for a walk. As for me, I laughed my ass off. One of the guys I'm friends with asked me if it bothered me.
Bothered me? Why?
Well, all the guys more than noticed and you are a little less than endowed. Doesn't that bother you?
My answer - hell no!! By the time she's my age, she'll wish things were different.
I dated a boob man once. He loved nothing more than giving me a rough time about what I didn't have. Finally, about a month into the relationship I decided to pull a little trick. My roommate at the time had one of those water bras. I borrowed it, added one of my favorite low cut sweaters and met him at the door. To me I looked like some kind of freak - he was in 7th heaven. After dinner I had to go and change. I just didn't feel like myself. He kept commenting on the difference until I finally just explained that if he wanted breasts yet wanted to still date me he would have to purchase a water bra for himself because I'm not changing a damn thing about myself for anyone.
I figure - use what ya got ladies!! That's what it's there for. As for me, I'm happy just the way I am.
Posted by Tammi at August 5, 2004 07:42 PM | TrackBackLOL! I have never been a head turner. I think part of it as I don't have that beautiful curvy bod. It is what men notice and I'm totally cool with that. I always had to work a little harder to get a man to notice me.
My friends with the beautiful bodies that men flock to, they wonder sometimes whether the men actually like them for them or just their bods. I never had that question pop in my head. Kinda nice.
Posted by: Boudicca at August 5, 2004 08:21 PMI consider it a wonderful testament that my two best friends are considering reductions; they hate the "bounty" they've been given. I think they're extremely mature.
Posted by: Sarah at August 6, 2004 02:40 AMWell, at the risk of stepping in it, I think yours are very nice based on what I've seen. :) Second, not all men were bottle fed -- some of us happen to like proportion (which you have) and some of us also happen to like natural and/or small. B is beautiful!
Posted by: Laughing Wolf at August 6, 2004 06:20 AMCaliber isn't important, as long as those guns are aimed at me, I'm a happy man :-)
Posted by: Harvey at August 6, 2004 07:29 AMIn my family I'm the opposite of everybody. Shorter then everybody, curves and huge freaking breasts (36DD).
I hate them. They cause shoulder and back pain and if I wasn't such a wussy I would have a reduction.
And I have to get the most boring bras for any support. I envy small breasts.
Of course I do have to admit I take my puppies out for walks also ;)
Posted by: Machelle at August 6, 2004 11:47 AMLove what your Aunt did for your sweet 16, something you'll never forget! ;D
I'm not a big girl, not small, but comfortable with what I have. Took a while to get used to it and to convince men that my eyes were green and not found on my chest. But I agree, every once in a while you've got to just flaunt 'em when they're having a good day! lol
I've never wanted to be bigger or smaller...maybe a bit firmer. But then again I tried a those push ups when they first came out...I nearly choked to death! I don't think they were supposed to sit under my chin!
Hope that made ya' smile! Be happy with what you have, what you get added may not be what you need.
:)
As I said over at Bou's place. My neighbor - a 17 year old, had a reduction this year because of the problems - her best friend had one also (same age).
As for me, I guess I'm average. I don't see any guys tripping over their tongues when I walk by. LOL. Although I was sitting in the local Starbucks with 3 guys from my tai chi class when this girl walked in and they did the head swivel, jaw drop... it was a hoot and I still tease them about it.
Posted by: Teresa at August 6, 2004 03:05 PM[eavesdropping and smiling]
Posted by: Harvey at August 7, 2004 12:16 PMOK...I get to add. I am busty. No doubt about it. Been that way for 20 odd years. When I was a teen, I was embarrased. When I was in my twenties, I was torn between - Hooya! I got it! And, "for the love of God, they don't talk!" Now, I'm older and they need all the help they can get. Pain in the ass to get the right size bra.
My favorite line was, "Are those real?" Um...if you are asking, I guarantee we aren't exchanging numbers. Bye-Bye.
Posted by: kat-missouri at August 7, 2004 03:38 PM