November 07, 2005

Be True

So I get this email the other day. It's from a guy I used to date. One of those "chain" things - stuff I usually hate. BUT...I was just really surprised to see something from HIM. Hadn't heard a peep outta the guy since Christmas last, hadn't seen him in almost 2 years.

Let me just tell you a little background. This guy had me at hello. Seriously. We met on a blind date and I was at the bar a bit before he was. My first sight of him was as he walked into the bar on the phone. Holy Shit. He was the most beautiful human being I had ever laid eyes on. HOLY SHIT. Seriously - I almost snuck out the back door.

I didn't. We had a wonderful dinner and a great friendship began. I discovered that we have similar backgrounds (both come from very religious families). The guy is scary smart. Oh - and was in the Air Force. Owned his own business and had the funniest sense of humor. Damn - we laughed alot. Down side? The guy could out talk me.........made for some damned long conversations.

But let me tell you - a more messed up man I have yet to meet. WILD! Holy Cow. And if anything bad could happen, it was going to happen to him.

He was also, to be completely honest, not a very nice guy. Oh, not abusive. Not at all. Just.....selfish. But knowing him I realized he was just running. Running from pain, fear, lonliness. Just flat out running. After a bit of a broken heart on my side we ended up being really good friends. Then just friends. It never would have worked. Ever.

So - fast forward to the email. I throw him a note back askin' how he's doing. You cannot imagine my surprise when I hear he's very involved in his church, getting his second Master's Degree and leading not one but TWO troubled teen groups.

And he's happy. He's content. I'm thrilled for him.

He's come full circle. I don't know what happened, what chain of events led to these changes but I'm just grateful that he's in a better place.

It's curious isn't it? How many times we are our happiest, the most complete when we are just true to who we are and just stop running.

Posted by Tammi at November 7, 2005 06:23 AM

Life's a quilt; who knows, your friendship may have been one of the threads that helped him pull his life together... :)

Posted by: pam at November 7, 2005 06:33 AM

And he's still a complete ASS for messing up on the best things on two legs to stand before him. And I've map quested his house, if he hasn't moved. Still longing to pay a little "visit" for a nice chat one day! Tempting....oh so tempting!

Jerk off!

Posted by: Lee Ann at November 7, 2005 10:21 AM