I am the worst friend ever. I am a horrible person. I suck.
My best friend Sharon has been my confident, partner in crime and all around sister for over 25 years now. We've only ever had one fight and it involved waaaayyyyy to much liquor and my smart ass mouth. We worked through it quickly and since that time it's been the perfect friendship. Until Saturday.
I screwed up. Big Time.
I've always had a very biting sense of humor. Years ago, it cost me friendships. So I tempered it. I don't just say what pops into my head (believe it or not). Oh, I still think the zingers I just know better than to say them.
The guys I work with are the Kings of Zingers. If you're gonna survive you have to dish it right back. I'm holding my own pretty well. So this humor has come back to almost full strength.
Saturday Sharon stopped by Mama's house and we were all talking. Talking about redecorating. I'm getting Mama a new couch and we were debating colors. Sharon had on a beautiful wine colored sweater and we were thinking about something in that color. To help us visualize she stood up in front of the curtain, facing the window. I grinned and said I liked the color but wasn't thinking about getting something overstuffed.
Over stuffed.
HOLY SHIT. Did that just come out of my mouth?!?!?!?!?!?!
I have never in my life said anything that cruel to someone I care about. SHE'S NOT FAT. Not even close. She's my Best Friend. Why oh Why would I even say that?!?!
So - for the last couple of days I've been leaving messages for her. Singing any song I can think of with the words "I'm sorry" in them. Yesterday I ordered a dozen variety roses to be delivered to her office. All the card says is "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry".
And I am. I just can't belive I did that.
I am the worst friend ever.
Posted by Tammi at September 28, 2005 05:59 AMI understand your plight. The first 5 comments that popped into my head probably wouldn't have helped. If you guys have been friends that long, I don't think she'll hold a grudge.
Posted by: Contagion at September 28, 2005 06:30 AMYeah, maybe as payback she is just letting you stew. . .
Posted by: oddybobo at September 28, 2005 07:47 AMDon't be so hard on yourself; you're suffering far worse than she felt hearing the quip, and she probably knows it. ;)
If she's your best friend she knows you like a well read book and knows that it was a simple slip of the tongue.
Posted by: pam at September 28, 2005 08:38 AMReally? I thought that was kind of funny! She doesn't know your sense of humor?
Seriously, you could have said that to me and I would not have taken offense to that and you've seen my fat ass!
I don't think you are in the wrong...but I know you do! :-)
It's ok to apologize, just don't let her take it overboard!
Posted by: Sissy at September 28, 2005 01:30 PMI thought it was funny too, and I AM fat.
I think you've done enough. Let her call you.
Posted by: caltechgirl at September 28, 2005 04:31 PMDo this:
Continue on in your day to day activities as if it never happened. DON`T keep calling or trying to apologize, simply carry on your friendship as if it never happened.
She may not want to hear your apology, or not want to be reminded about it.
Keep your apologies to yourself until SHE brings the subject up.
Ignore it. If she doesn`t bring it up, then "it never happened".
Simple.
I agree with joatmoaf.
Posted by: Bou at September 28, 2005 07:46 PMI'm with Joatmoaf and Bou.
Posted by: Teresa at September 28, 2005 09:13 PMi probably would have opened my mouth wide and chased you around with a baseball bat, laughing and making up my own zingers. i'm sure she's fine.
Posted by: sarahk at September 29, 2005 06:43 AMMe, I would've just winced and laughed, congratulating you on getting in a good one. I *love* it when you pop off like that :-D
Anyway, I'm sure it'll be ok
{hug}
Posted by: Harvey at September 29, 2005 03:38 PMI tried to comment a few days ago, but my 'puter took a dump.
There's NO WAY that you need to continue to apologize. She should know you by now, and all that stuff everyone else is saying....
I didn't even think it was that bad! Sensitive, shmensitive. It's not like you told her her kid was ugly or anything. Or that you puked on her new carpet....
Posted by: allicadem at October 1, 2005 09:03 AM